My July 2021 Goals

Today marks the beginning of the second half of 2021! Who’s ready to make it the best half?

I’ve been reviewing my yearly goals to make sure I’m on track, and based on that list, I’m setting four goals this month.

1. Hit 5000 members in the Impossible Girls Facebook Group
   I truly believe we have something special in this group. Everyone is following each other’s goals and dreams and helping each other with requests. SO fun. More women need to know about it!

2. Redo my office space
   I am ridiculously excited that my property manager gave me permission to remove a display that was GLUED onto the wall, and now I can get started on creating a display that makes me feel like my ideal future self when I’m in my office.

3. Complete two years of blogging in a row
   You guys. In 21 days, I will be DONE. I love blogging but I’m excited to put my daily blogging efforts into new exciting projects like…

4. Write the first episode of my podcast
   It’s become super apparent to me that a podcast is my next step. But I’m committing right now, to making it the most fun, Joyful project - not a stressful one. Still deciding on a name for my podcast (open to suggestions!).

What are your goals for July?

June 2021 Goals Review

1. Double my emergency fund
   DONE! I’m so stoked that I managed to do this because I wasn’t sure if I over-invested into my emergency fund and would end up needing to take it all back out again. Super stoked that I managed to double it because it’s a great feeling to have it. (Although, I always remind myself: my security is in my brain, not my bank account).

2. Do a cardio workout at least 4x a week
   INCOMPLETE. I only ended up working out 1-2x a week on the days when I had an external activity planned – like tap dancing or swing dancing. (Just another reminder of how important accountability is). I realised my rookie mistake here – I didn’t actually set an exciting goal. “Workout 4x a week” isn’t inspiring. I should have set myself a fun CHALLENGE.

3. Join a dance class with Daniel
   Done! We joined a Swing Dancing class and we’ve learned to do the the basic Lindy Hop moves as well as “the chicken"“ and “kick the dog”.

4. Actively revisit the Ultimate Relationship Program with Tony Robbins
   Done! We learned about the three levels of relationships and it sparked some great conversations. I think that’s the biggest bonus of this entire program – not the content, but the conversations that we’re having because of it.

Switch Off

This evening I found out that our brains can’t distinguish between working and not working when we’re on our phones. So that means, even if we take a break from work to scroll through social media or watch a video or read an article, our brains still think we’re working.

Think about that: how many hours does your brain think you work?

Woah.

No wonder we’re a society of burnt out people.

Extra fun fact: researchers (don’t ask me where from, go ask Celeste Headlee) found that our brain is constantly aware and on high alert just for having a smart phone in our field of vision.

It’s not tech that is causing us damage though.

It’s our obsession with using it all the time.

The message today: do something that doesn’t involve tech!

Feel the Blah and Do It Anyway

I saw this photo and immediately could relate.

Sometimes, all you want to do is stay snuggled in a blanket and feel blah.

(Blah is an official emotion, you know the feeling, right?).

But I’ve decide I will still always show up for my commitments.

It doesn’t mean I won’t take a break, or relax a bit first, or do a meditation or let out the BLAH feeling first.

It just means that by the end of the day, no matter how I’m feeling, all of my commitments get done.

Today is one of those days.

Goals Are Just For Fun

Your worth doesn't come from hitting your goals.

Don't confuse your human value with your achieved value.

You are 100% worthy already, just for existing.

Like a puppy.

A puppy doesn't have to DO anything for you to love it.

It's enough that it's a puppy.

YOU are enough just for existing.

The goal part? It's just for fun.

Breathe into that, for real.

Goals are just for fun.

ONE Action

What if you just did one thing towards your goal today?

ONE.

You could make one phone call.

Or write one sentence.

Or send one email.

Or ask one person for help.

You could think about doing it.

But what if you actually did it?

You’d be one action closer.

And it could be the thing that changes everything.

The phone call could connect you to the exact person you need.

The sentence could be a stroke of genius.

The email could land you the ideal client.

The ask could turn into an opportunity of a lifetime.

Just ONE action today could be the difference between achieving your biggest goals now or waiting another 10 years.

Pick any action. It doesn’t have to be the one you’ve been dreading.

It could be the easiest, tiniest action in the world – and it could still change everything.

Don’t wait.

Why "Don't Get Your Hopes Up" is Terrible Advice

HOLD UP. We gotta talk about this phrase “Don’t get your hopes up.”

You don’t want me to feel a good emotion in case there’s a bad emotion coming?

That’s like saying, don’t enjoy the ride in case the destination sucks.

Whaaaaaat?!

When you don’t let yourself get your hopes up, you’re literally STEALING joy from yourself.

The anticipation of achieving a goal is almost always THE BEST BIT!

When you achieve it, you’ll probably celebrate for 5 minutes and want to set a new goal anyway. So enjoy the ride. Get your hopes up.

Plus, here’s what I think about you: I think you’re strong enough to handle the disappointment of not achieving your money goal, or of getting rejected by a job, or of not winning a competition.

I think you can handle it.

Get your hopes up, have an amazing time anticipating the wonderful joy ahead of you – and then if you don’t achieve it, at least you’ll have had fun along the way.

Getting your hopes up is a beautiful thing. Gift it to yourself and others!

The Identity Paradox

The identity paradox is this:

You have to be the person who has hit your goal before you can be the person who has hit your goal.

You have to embody them. Step into the role. Walk like them, talk like them, act like them in every way.

Only then will you be able to hit your goal – once you ARE the person who can hit your goal.

Don't Reinvent the Wheel

Yesterday, while planning what content to create next, I broke my own number one rule: Always create a simple plan.

Instead, I got swept up in the moment and decided to create a complicated plan, with bells and whistles and cherries on top.

I made a content calendar with stickers and tabs and color-coded markers.

I cooked up ideas for 6 different kinds of content (videos, reels, posts, quotes, stories, livestreams).

I worried about unnecessary details (should I do music or voiceovers with my reels?).

And within 30 minutes, I found myself so overwhelmed I was nearly in tears.

Over a content calendar.

I felt like Kim Kardashian in that episode where she loses her earring in the ocean and has a full on breakdown.

And then I remembered something really important: the wheel has already been invented.

And it works excellently. No need to create a content calendar or a social media strategy or ANYTHING.

A reminder of my simple plan that's been working for years:

1. Create valuable content.

2. Post it.

What’s your simple plan?

Do your goals feel like problems?

Do your goals feel like problems?

A goal to create your first client becomes “the problem of not having clients.”

A goal to write your first book becomes “the problem of getting myself to write.”

A goal to feel fit and healthy becomes “the problem of self control.”

What used to feel light and exciting now fills you with feelings of dread and inadequacy.

If you see your goals as problems, you’ll always have problems – because there will always be another level, another bar to hit.

But if you decide to look at it like a project, it will be fun.

The Writing Project is a lot more fun than The Writing Problem, right?

What project are you working on?