Second Guessing

My brain likes to do this thing where it second guesses itself. It makes a move and then later thinks “Why did I say that?” or “Ugh, that was so embarrassing”.

I had it happen today. And now my brain is just repeating the situation over and over in my head, trying to replay everything I did wrong again and again.

But we have to give ourselves grace.

And tell ourselves:

I tried my best.

I did the best I could with the situation at the time.

I am learning. I will get better.

It doesn’t really matter in the long run.

In 5 years it won’t matter.

Let go.

The Last Dance

Those who’ve spoken to me over the past 5 months or so know that there’s one person who has completely, wildly, changed my thinking without ever having spoken a word to each other: Michael Jordan.

Before I saw his documentary The Last Dance, I knew who he was of course (is there any more famous sports star?) but I’d never seen footage of him play or heard an interview with him, so I didn’t understand why he was such a big deal.

I get it now.

I’m not specifically interested in basketball as a sport, but since watching his documentary I feel like a whole new world of possibility has opened up.

It’s about ability to DECIDE to make something happen – and then just go and do it.

Michael can do that, unlike anyone else.

Now, without a doubt, the most common thought I have when I’m facing a challenge is, What Would MJ Do?

November 2020 Goals

1. Get all the systems in my business sorted. In the last 2 months, I've taken on 16 new clients, and my business has absolutely boomed (which if you've been following my journey is super exciting – until earlier this year, I spent 2 years not making it work before I got here). As a result, my systems and processes are no longer sufficient. Time to create some new ones and get my business in order!

2. Do my physio exercises 3x a day. Last month I finally saw some improvement after almost an entire year of shoulder pain. This month, I'm ready to go to the next level and make my shoulder pain significantly reduce – or even recover. This is going to require some serious discipline from my brain.

3. Go to bed by 12am every night. This is going to be the biggest challenge of all. I am a real night owl, and I find it super tricky to switch off (especially if my brain gets hold of an idea, then forget about sleeping, I'll be up all night). But I'm determined to get a better hold of my sleep so I can perform at my best each day.

What are your November goals? Let me know in the comments by clicking the title of this post!

October 2020 Goals Review

1. Focus even more on what matters. CHECK ✅

I cut out YouTube for most of this month, because I realised that it was going to take time away from my most important goals. This was a learning lesson this month: If you want to do something impossible, you have to put your all into it. Anything that could potentially take time away from it can't be done.

2. Meet the requirements to join the business mastermind I want to be in. CHECK ✅ This was the biggest goal I've ever had to achieve. I wasn't going to apply for the mastermind for another entire YEAR – the requirements are intense You have to have signed a certain number of clients/made a certain number of $ in 12 month period. When I set this goal I didn't take into account that I won't technically be accepted until November because they don't open applications until November 2nd. BUT the work had to be done in October. I did the work. I'm ready to apply. 14 hours until applications open. Watch this space.

3. Making actual progress on my shoulder healing. CHECK ✅

I am literally jumping with JOY that I am making progress. I've been doing some new nerve exercises and I'm finally noticing a subtle difference. I've got a long way to go, but I haven't had shoulder pain for four days now. That's a HUGE win.

4. Reading a book or watching Netflix in the evenings. CHECK ✅
I read Happier at Home and The Defining Decade, and watched Breaking Bad, The Last Dance, the NZ elections, Grace and Frankie, David Attenborough and I think a bunch of other things I've forgotten! The goal was to chill and enjoy company with my family in the evenings instead of #workworkwork – and I count that as a success!

The Last Minute

It's almost the end of the month and I recently got criticised on Instagram for always pushing to hit my goals at the last minute.

Someone said to me “This is a bit of a running theme for you. l appreciate your last-minute efforts but maybe there’s something to improve in your system.”

Nope.

Because guess what?

If you hit your goal three weeks early, you didn’t set a big enough goal.

Recently my client record-breaking client Matheson told me, “If I think I’m going to hit my goal in advance, I make it harder.”

Yup.

You can't know what you're actually capable of until the last minute.

So why not push yourself to your absolute limit and find out?

I learned this from my dad and his climbing partner.

They set a goal to climb the 7 summits in 7 months – the fastest record ever at the time.

(7 summits = the highest mountain on each continent)

They started with Everest in May and ended with Antarctica's Vinson Massif in December.

They achieved their goal – with six hours to spare.

Six.

So don't be afraid to make bold moves at the last minute.

Nothing impossible was ever done early.

When Everything Goes Wrong

Everything going wrong isn't a sign for you to stop.

It's a test to see how bad you want it.

It's a chance to show yourself what you're made of.

It's an opportunity to show up as someone who doesn't take no for an answer.

What if you get 500 rejection letters for your book? Send another one.

It’s not the end. It’s just a test.

I know because I've been tested a lot.

One time, I missed an international flight to Arizona and had to buy a new one.

Which immediately got canceled by the airline.

They told me there was no way I could get a direct flight that day.

So I decided to fly to the wrong airport on purpose, and take a taxi for an hour across states to another airport.

Then the taxi driver got pulled over by the police for speeding.

The driver charged me extra because of it and I objected. So he locked me in the car. I got out. I’m okay.

I got to Arizona on time.

You know what? It was SO worth it.

Just for the experience of pushing my limits. Just for finding out what I’m made of. What I’m willing to do.

And because of many experiences like this, no matter what gets thrown my way, I believe in my ability to figure it out. Always.

So if things are going wrong right now, know that it’s just a test to see how bad you want it.

Getting into Forbes

Today I want to celebrate my amazing client Erin Drummer for getting into Forbes this week!

Erin is an elopement photographer and she got interviewed for an adventure piece linking to her website.

In our coaching session last week, Erin told me she'd love to be in major publications to grow her business.

We created a plan, but I had no idea how quickly she would implement it.

It didn't take years.

It took one email.

Now anyone who reads that Forbes article can find her website and book her services.

Erin, you're an actual BOSS.

What if like Erin, you're just ONE email away from getting into Forbes?

What if your impossible goal is just sitting there, waiting for you to come and get it?

Your impossible goal is available to you, right now.

You just have to decide you're going to do what it takes to get it.

It doesn't matter if you want to hit 20k on Instagram, get in Forbes or start a book shop.

It's so much closer than you think.

Read the Forbes article here.

Check out Erin’s website and Instagram.

Sprint

We’re almost at the end of October.

Even if you walked part of the month, I dare you to sprint this last bit to the end.

Finish strong. That’s my challenge to myself.

It already feels SO good.

Head in the Game

I’ve spoken on this blog before about Stephen Covey’s quote “The main thing is to keep the main thing, the main thing”, but it couldn’t be truer for me now than ever.

I’ve been working like crazy to qualify for the mastermind I want to join.

It’s the kind of goal you have to push EVERYTHING aside for.

I’ve stopped doing a lot of things that seemed important to me.

I haven’t been growing my group.

I haven’t been making YouTube videos.

I haven’t been running.

Not because they aren’t important to me.

But because my priority right now is to hit my most important goal.

And I’m willing to do whatever it takes.

Even if that means sacrificing the time I’m spending on some of my other less important goals.

I will be back to growing my group, making YouTube videos and running – soon.

But right now, I’ve got my head in the game.

Double Impossible

This is my boyfriend, Daniel.

His impossible goal is to do something called a Double Cork (a double twisting backflip off one foot).

He’s SO close.

To give you an idea of skill level, at one point in time, a Triple Cork was considered physically impossible.

So to do a Double Cork will be the hardest move he’s ever done.

I’ve seen him fail this exact move for an entire year.

But he has never given up.

He trains almost every single day.

Any day now, he’s going to get it.

And the moment he hits it, a Triple Cork is going to be possible for him too.

Because he’s done the flippin’ work.