Find Your Tonic

The mind is ultra powerful. Psychologists, philosophers and neuroscientists don’t understand it yet, but they do know it has gigantic power.

And sometimes, when we perceive power in other things – crystals, prayer beads, candles, lights, cards, gurus, the Universe – it is actually a reflection of the power within us.

If crystals or candles or gurus help you step into your power because you feel powerful around them, then brilliant. Use them.

If they don’t, no worries. Find your tonic. Find the thing that makes you feel powerful in its presence.

Choose to believe in whatever makes you feel powerful. It will serve you greatly.

How to Manifest Your Dreams

Manifestation is a total buzzword.

It is often associated with The Law of Attraction or The Secret, but really, there’s nothing woo-woo about it at all. Here’s the definition of manifestation by Oxford Dictionary:

an event, action, or object that clearly shows or embodies something abstract or theoretical

In more simple words: a mental concept coming to life.

So how do you make a mental concept come to life?

You must become the kind of person who can make it come to life.

You can’t win an Oscar for Best Actor if you’re not an actor.

So in order to get the result, you have to first BE the person who can achieve the result. Whatever result you want, step into being that person first.

Then, equally importantly, you must also take action.

The actor must act. You cannot win an Oscar for Best Actor if you haven’t acted in a film, show or production.

You must BE the actor, and you must DO the acting in order to win best actor.

Be the kind of person who gets the result.

Then do the thing that person would do to get the result.

Manifestation = Mindset + Action

It’s all about getting yourself into total alignment with the result:

1. What result do you want?

2. Who do you need to be to get that result?

3. Now that you are already that person, what do you do/say/think/wear/eat?

Let Go & Get Clean

An identity is a belief about who we are. Those beliefs can be so strong we don’t even realize we have them.

They’ve become an unconscious pattern.

We are so used to being the struggling entrepreneur, or the stressed-out mum, or the one who can’t control themselves around food, that we have become dependent on that identity to know who we are.

But if we want to be the thriving entrepreneur, or the relaxed mum, or the one who loves their body, we must let go of our old identity and step into a new one.

We have to get clean.

Getting clean from belief patterns is not a once-off process. Instead, we must choose to step into our new identity one moment at a time.

What is the identity you are letting go of? What is the new identity you are stepping into?

Mind Drama

There’s a difference between the truth and the way our minds interpret things.

We think our thoughts are the truth, but they aren’t.

We do this thing called Mind Drama.

We make a situation mean something, when in fact, it doesn’t mean that thing at all.

It’s neutral.

We add meaning to a situation with our thoughts.

You get to choose the meaning, because you get to choose your thoughts.

Choose again.

There will come a day

There will come a day when you will reminisce about the beginning of your journey.

There will come a day where you’ll look back and remember that you used to struggle so much to make progress on your impossible dream.

There will come a day when the problem you’re facing right now won’t be a problem for you any more.

There will come a day when you are so successful at what you do, you’ll look back and give your current self advice from the future.

What will your future self say to your current self?

How did they overcome this problem you’re facing?

The Answer in Disguise

The question you are asking in your head is usually the answer in disguise.

“Am I focusing on too many things?” = I am focusing on too many things.

“Are these shoes too old for that special occasion?” = These shoes are too old for that special occasion.

“Am I talking to too many people in my messaging?” = I am talking to too many people in my messaging.

This is not always the case, but it’s a great exercise to see if you already know the answer to what you’re struggling with? You’ll know when it’s true.

Your only job

Imagine you want to quit smoking.

Your job isn’t to stop putting cigarettes in your mouth.

Your job is to become the kind of person who doesn’t even think about smoking.

Imagine you want to lose weight.

Your job isn’t to go on a diet.

Your job is to become the kind of person who loves looking after their body.

Imagine you want to make a million dollars.

Your job isn’t to work really hard.

Your job is to become the kind of person who can create a million dollars worth of value in the world.

Your only job is to be the kind of person who gets the result you want.

When you become that person, the required action will happen automatically.

Quarantine: Day 2

Since we arrived back into New Zealand on Sunday, we’ve had to quarantine.

But you know what? It kind of feels like we get to quarantine. It’s a break. A relaxation. A moment away from the hectic expectations of the world.

I haven’t read a single news article.
I’ve read my book! An actual book, with pages! Oh, this is a glorious opportunity.

Coronavirus has shaken shit up. The world is an uncertain place. We all know it, we all feel it.

We all had big plans for 2020 and now it feels like they’re being shut down.

You can give up on your plans and goals because the world seems hopeless.

Or you can grab your dreams by the reigns and turn this mofo around.

What if this lockdown wasn’t a crisis, but the biggest opportunity of your life?

What if you chose to take this time to work on your biggest dreams?

Imagine where you could be in 90 days. Imagine how you could come out of this. Stronger than before. In a better financial position. On a new path.

You could start your business, or amp up the one that’s been sitting on the back burner and bring in some extra income.

You could create that content you’ve been meaning to create. Blogs, Videos, Websites, Photography, Art, Books.

You could take on your dream to be a producer/filmmaker/model/business owner/writer/freelancer/blogger/vlogger.

Whatever your dream is, now is the time to make it happen.

This can be a blessing, if you let it.

How To Flustle

Flustle.
Verb. to own your own freaking energy and do things the way that feels good to you.
Hustle & flow, together.

The guy who read my chakras today (don’t ask) said my masculine and feminine energy were off. But I’ve never felt like I could be put into the masculine or feminine energy box. I don’t do things with flow. I analyze too much for flow. I don’t do things with blunt force. I’m too intuitive for that.

But you know what I do freaking do?

I flustle.

Sometimes that means doing all sorts of random stuff to achieve my goals.

I’m not going to be ashamed of the way I go after my goals just because it’s not perfect. I AM in balance, thank you very much, charkra man. I’m in flustle. I’m not ashamed of my mishmash, driving-with-my-eyes-closed, flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants MO.

Do you want to know a secret? I DON’T HAVE A CLUE WHAT I’M DOING.

Do you want to know another secret? NO ONE ELSE DOES EITHER.

My MO is to flustle.

And now that I’ve made it a thing, I ain't ever apologising for it.

What if I just decided the hot mess I am was good enough?

Mistakes I Made When I Started My Business

Bonus mistake: posting images of me with flowers on my face for absolutely no reason. But this was me back then!

I started making money online as a coach almost exactly 2 years ago, so I thought it would be fun to share some of the mistakes I made when I started out. I hope they help you to avoid making the same ones – and if you have any questions, feel free to ask them in the comments or send me an email/Instagram message.

1. Getting distracted from the main thing. Stephen Covey said, “The main thing is to keep the main thing, the main thing.” When I first started coaching, long before I had a certification, I jumped straight in and my lack of knowledge was actually an asset. I had no idea how to create sales funnels or do email marketing, I didn’t have professional photos and wasn’t good at pretty much any business skill. So I didn’t do any of it. Instead, I focused most of my energy on creating and serving my clients – and that worked immediately. As soon as I started to learn about marketing tactics, my business slowed down massively. It took me a long time to figure out what was wrong. I’m talking at least 12 months.

2. Burning my weapons. Tony Robbins said, “If you want to take the island you need to burn the boats.” In other words, to really go all in and make something work, you need to have no return, no way back. I followed this advice, and I quit my job – which was the right thing to do. The wrong thing to do was to very quickly burn my weapons too – my money. I super quickly spent almost all of it on my coaching certification, and while I’m grateful I did that, in hindsight, I should have left some for marketing, and uh, food.

3. Make it complicated. Business is nowhere near as complex as it seems, particularly not when you’re a solo entrepreneur. You don’t need the fancy funnels, fancy marketing campaigns, or fancy anything to make money online. You need you, a skill, and someone who needs your offer.

4. Closing my Facebook group. This is a very specific mistake that won’t apply to everyone in business, but I feel that my Facebook group was a great source of connection with wonderful amazing people and many of my clients were in that group. Running a successful Facebook group is a huge time commitment, but the reward for your audience is massive. It’s a place to connect, ask questions, and get help for free. This is something I will be bringing back in the very near future.

5. Spending forever on my website. This is still a mistake I make to this day. I love editing website – changing the colours, the fonts, the style, the layout – and I am not kidding you, once I get started, that’s it, the whole day is a write-off. On several occasions, I’ve gone without food for more than 12 hours, totally immersed in getting the exact right font or something else inconsequential. This habit particularly deceptive because it feels like productivity (my website needs to be good for my clients, right?), but it’s not. My advice: Figure out your distractions and guilty pleasures, and limit yourself.

6. Not having a contract. The second client I ever signed ghosted me after the first session we had, but she hadn’t paid the full amount yet. Always get your agreements in writing!

What mistakes have you made in business? Let me know I’d love to chat mistakes!