What if we showed up like every day was the last day?

What if we showed up for our July Goals like every day was the last day of July?

That’s 31 opportunities to make bold, gutsy, last-minute moves.

31 chances to try our crazy “it’s-a-long-shot-but-it-might-just-work” plans.

31 openings to sprint through airport security for a first kiss, or make a risky phone call, or ask a favour from a friend’s sister’s old roommate.

Because if it doesn’t work, all hope is not lost.

We’ve got time on our side. We can try a long shot again tomorrow.

But only if we act like it’s the final moment before it really is the final moment.

It crossed my mind today: what if July 2021 has already happened – and we didn’t hit our goals – and the time lords are gifting us a do-over?

That means every morning this month it’s our job to wake up and decide “Today is the day.”

And then take ridiculous, wild action that only a main character in a romcom would be fearless enough to try.

We’ve been given 31 last chances to hit our July goals.

LFG.

My July 2021 Goals

Today marks the beginning of the second half of 2021! Who’s ready to make it the best half?

I’ve been reviewing my yearly goals to make sure I’m on track, and based on that list, I’m setting four goals this month.

1. Hit 5000 members in the Impossible Girls Facebook Group
   I truly believe we have something special in this group. Everyone is following each other’s goals and dreams and helping each other with requests. SO fun. More women need to know about it!

2. Redo my office space
   I am ridiculously excited that my property manager gave me permission to remove a display that was GLUED onto the wall, and now I can get started on creating a display that makes me feel like my ideal future self when I’m in my office.

3. Complete two years of blogging in a row
   You guys. In 21 days, I will be DONE. I love blogging but I’m excited to put my daily blogging efforts into new exciting projects like…

4. Write the first episode of my podcast
   It’s become super apparent to me that a podcast is my next step. But I’m committing right now, to making it the most fun, Joyful project - not a stressful one. Still deciding on a name for my podcast (open to suggestions!).

What are your goals for July?

June 2021 Goals Review

1. Double my emergency fund
   DONE! I’m so stoked that I managed to do this because I wasn’t sure if I over-invested into my emergency fund and would end up needing to take it all back out again. Super stoked that I managed to double it because it’s a great feeling to have it. (Although, I always remind myself: my security is in my brain, not my bank account).

2. Do a cardio workout at least 4x a week
   INCOMPLETE. I only ended up working out 1-2x a week on the days when I had an external activity planned – like tap dancing or swing dancing. (Just another reminder of how important accountability is). I realised my rookie mistake here – I didn’t actually set an exciting goal. “Workout 4x a week” isn’t inspiring. I should have set myself a fun CHALLENGE.

3. Join a dance class with Daniel
   Done! We joined a Swing Dancing class and we’ve learned to do the the basic Lindy Hop moves as well as “the chicken"“ and “kick the dog”.

4. Actively revisit the Ultimate Relationship Program with Tony Robbins
   Done! We learned about the three levels of relationships and it sparked some great conversations. I think that’s the biggest bonus of this entire program – not the content, but the conversations that we’re having because of it.

Goals Are Just For Fun

Your worth doesn't come from hitting your goals.

Don't confuse your human value with your achieved value.

You are 100% worthy already, just for existing.

Like a puppy.

A puppy doesn't have to DO anything for you to love it.

It's enough that it's a puppy.

YOU are enough just for existing.

The goal part? It's just for fun.

Breathe into that, for real.

Goals are just for fun.

The Identity Paradox

The identity paradox is this:

You have to be the person who has hit your goal before you can be the person who has hit your goal.

You have to embody them. Step into the role. Walk like them, talk like them, act like them in every way.

Only then will you be able to hit your goal – once you ARE the person who can hit your goal.

Do your goals feel like problems?

Do your goals feel like problems?

A goal to create your first client becomes “the problem of not having clients.”

A goal to write your first book becomes “the problem of getting myself to write.”

A goal to feel fit and healthy becomes “the problem of self control.”

What used to feel light and exciting now fills you with feelings of dread and inadequacy.

If you see your goals as problems, you’ll always have problems – because there will always be another level, another bar to hit.

But if you decide to look at it like a project, it will be fun.

The Writing Project is a lot more fun than The Writing Problem, right?

What project are you working on?

700 Days of Blogging

Today I hit 700 days of blogging in a row.

That means there’s 30 days left until I’ve officially done two years in a row.

I’m so grateful for this chapter (or 700 mini chapters).

And I can’t wait to begin a new one. I LOVE writing, and I LOVE blogging. 

But I’m even more in love with setting new impossible goals.

I can’t wait to share what I’ve got coming.

June 2021 Goals Update

We’re two-thirds through the month and I know that the more I hold myself accountable to my goals throughout the month, the better I do overall – so here’s me, holding myself accountable:

1. Double my emergency fund
   I did it! Woohoo! This was a goal I’d left for quarter four but managed to get done by now. If you don’t have an emergency fund, I definitely recommend checking out the Baby Steps by Dave Ramsey!

2. Do a cardio workout at least 4x a week
   I have been struggling to get 4x workouts per week in like I’d planned to (only managing two – but I have a plan to increase it!), but after watching The Bold Type, I’m now obsessed with wanting to try SoulCycle. Candlelit cardio x motivational speaker x disco party?! Someone start a SoulCycle in New Zealand, please. (In the meantime I’ve committed to trying out a regular spin class).

3. Join a dance class with Daniel
   We have joined a Swing Dancing class and it’s a ton of fun – we always leave on a high! We’re also on the waitlist for a pottery throwing class and a screen-printing class (because the idea of this goal is to do more together – to be deliberately connected and engaged in activities together instead of just living alongside one another, which is an easy pattern to fall into, amiright?).

4. Actively revisit the Ultimate Relationship Program with Tony Robbins
   We haven’t started back into it yet, but it’s in our calendar for this week!

All in all, I’m giving myself a 6/10 on my goal-getting this month so far. Time to get my booty into gear and get that number up before June 30!

How are your June goals going?

You've Got Everything You Need to Hit Your Goal

No matter how impossible your goal seems, you’ve already done all of the things before. 

You’ve talked to people.

You’ve asked for things.

You’ve come up with solutions.

You’ve made money.

You’ve spent money.

You’ve been uncomfortable.

You’ve written stuff.

You’ve learned new things.

You’ve overcome obstacles.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re applying for Harvard (you’ve filled out forms before), or learning to walk (you’ve moved your legs before) or building a rocket (you’ve stuck stuff together before).

Every goal you’ve ever achieved was built on a bunch of other actions you already knew how to do.

So telling yourself “I’ve never done it before” is only kind of true.

You’ve never done it THIS way before.

But you’ve already got all of the pieces.

They just need rearranging.

(You’ve rearranged stuff before.)

Vacation Without Reception

This long weekend I went away with friends.

We stayed in a glamping hut on a farm in the middle of nowhere.

No cellphone reception.

No work.

Nothing to do except BE.

More of this, please.