There's No Right Way To Hit A Goal

There’s no right way to hit a goal.

Some of my clients adore the law of attraction and human design and surrendering to the universe, and some of them get excited by scientific research and habit trackers and pushing as hard as possible.

And you know what? They ALL hit their goals.

So I’m celebrating all you science-based tech-heavy goal getters AND the woo woo energy you-do-you-boo manifesters.

Some days I take a truck ton of action and tick everything off my list and other days I sit still and meditate, reminding myself I have done enough DOING and now is time to BE.

What if it ALL works?

What if really, anything will work when you commit to it 100%?

What if it was actually easy?

Difficulty doesn’t actually exist as a thing in the universe.

Our experience is what makes something feel hard or easy.

A mountain might seem hard to summit.

But with a helicopter it’s is pretty chill.

(Enter the invention of heliskiing) 

It’s the same with any goal.

Our goals aren’t just sitting around looking at us smugly like “I’m super difficult, you’ll never achieve me.”

Goals are neutral.

We get to decide if we experience them as hard or easy by how we approach them.

Sometimes we think they’re going to drain us. Exhaust us. Take YEARS of effort.

But what if getting fully booked in your business was as simple as putting out short videos on Instagram? (True story about my client Niamh).

What if becoming a professional fashion model was as easy as taking another model out to lunch? (True story about my client Chloe)

What if becoming a paid writer was as easy as putting your writing out into the world for people to see? (True story about my client Julia)

What if you decided your goal was actually super easy?

How would that change the way you approach it?

A Goal You Almost Hit

Tell me about a goal you ALMOST hit but didn’t... and how you feel about it.

Mine:

I almost become the television host of Bravo TV. I was devastated at the time, but so grateful I didn’t get it now that I look back (I may never have found out how much I love coaching).

Let me know in the comments by clicking the title of the post!

April 2021 Goals

1. Time-block all of my activities – and really, genuinely stick to the time I said I would do them.
   I tend to pile unnecessary extra tasks onto my calendar, and don’t do the things I was supposed to do on my calendar until later. Instead, this month I’m going to follow my calendar religiously. This is going to be a huge test of discipline, but ultimately, I think it will provide a lot of freedom.

2. Take my evenings and weekends fully off.
   It’s so easy to see work sneaking into evenings and weekends when you work for yourself. Not because I have to – but because I don’t prioritise my work properly during my workday.

That’s all. Last month I set 7 goals and didn’t hit them all. This month, I’m focusing only on what is important, and cutting out everything else. Simplicity is a theme that I have to constantly remind myself of, and I’m going to 100% commit to it in April!

March 2021 Goals Review

1. Grow my Impossible Girls Facebook Group to 5000 members!
   NOT DONE. I didn’t complete this and I know exactly why: I didn’t make it a priority. I didn’t focus on it, almost at all. I spent my energy focusing on all of my other goals and it’s taught me an important lesson: Don’t set too many goals at once!

2. Show up every single day in my group and add more love than ever before.
   DONE!

3. Do some of our Tony Robbins relationship course each day.
   Half done – we did it 50% of the days. Not perfect, but it’s still 15 days more than we were doing before we started the course, so that’s a win!

4. Mindset journaling every single morning, no excuses.
   This is the one I’m most proud of – because I’ve always wanted to create a habit of mindset journaling. It made a massive difference, and I had a really successful month overall.

5. Go walking 3x a week.
   DONE!

6. Join a hip hop class.
   DONE – except that instead of hip hop, I signed up to a tap class because of my shoulder injury. (Fun fact: I tap danced for 15 years and used to teach it!). Excited to go back!

7. See friends 3x a week.
   DONE!

Her First Billboard!

I just walked out of a cafe in Wellington and saw my photographer Aimee Jules’ first-ever billboard!

I’m so lucky to get to work with such phenomenal talent – Congratulations, Aimee!

Today's Challenge

Email someone who could help you achieve your goal and offer to help THEM for free, asking nothing in return.

Bonus points for the subject line being: “I want to work for you for free.”

(100% reply rate in my experience).

I'm Breaking Up With My Impossible Goal

I’ve thought long and hard about this one. Because I refuse to give up on my goals and dreams. Ever.

But what happens when a dream is something I no longer want?

I also refuse to spend my precious time on this earth pursuing a dream that is no longer a dream.

So, I am officially breaking up with of one of my goals: 100k Subscribers on YouTube.

Because it dawned on me that if hit 100k on YouTube – I would be a YouTuber. And I would have to put out more videos.

I don’t want to be a YouTuber.

I want to be a coach – and I am.

I don’t want to do both.

It’s not that I don’t like making videos. I do.

It’s just that it’s not what I want to spend most of my time doing.

And if I aim for 100k on YouTube, guess what? 

I’ll most definitely be putting myself in a position where I then need to spend most of my time creating YouTube videos.

I am not “quitting” YouTube (can I even say that as someone who isn’t actually a YouTuber?).

I may still put out videos from time to time.

I will certainly still binge-watch other people’s content.

But I realize that my goal was misdirected.

There’s a litmus test you can do to see if you still want your goal:

Ask yourself, “Would I still want this goal if I didn’t have to work for it?”

If someone handed me 100k subscribers on a plate right now, I wouldn’t take it.

I don’t want the life that comes with it.

So don’t give up on your goals because they’re hard.

Break up with them because you no longer want the end result.

Setting a Goal Always Feels Good

At the beginning of the year or month, it always feels amazing to set an impossible goal.

Because it’s easy to feel good about a goal you haven't started yet.

It's exciting, you've got time ahead of you, your belief is strong.

You haven't had to take action yet, and you haven't had to OWN your goal yet.

When you're freaking out and doing an ugly cry on your bathroom floor, it's because you're finally taking the goal seriously.

If you're not freaking out, fantastic.

But if you are, know that it is part of the impossible goal-getting process, and your only job is to love yourself and keep going.

I'm Hosting a Free Challenge!

THIS IS HAPPENING.

The official Impossible Girls 5 DAY CHALLENGE:

Make Your First Dollar Doing What You LOVE

Inspired by the conversations in my Facebook Group over the last few days, I'm going LIVE each day this week to walk you through the steps to making your first dollar (at least!) doing what you love in FIVE DAYS.

Shifting from seeing yourself as a “newbie” or a "struggling entrepreneur" to being someone who makes money in business is the most important thing you can do at the beginning of your entrepreneurial journey.

By the end of the week, my goal is to get EVERYONE who participates over the line to officially be a paid coach/artist/consultant/brand designer/*insert your thing here*.

What we're going to cover:

• How to create a compelling offer that people actually want to buy

• Pricing/how much you should charge for your offer in the beginning

• Exactly where to find your ideal clients/customers

• How to get those to come to YOU (we won't be chasing after people or sliding into DMs)

(If you've already made your first dollar, you can still participate – and set the goal at $100 or $1000 for 5 days).

The challenge is totally free, but it could be the most important thing you do all year.

We start Monday.

To participate, join the group here.