Sarah Arnold-Hall

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Why You Should Stop Trying & Start Being

The only way to get to Point B from Point A is to BE the person from Point B. – Jim Fortin

Everyone once in a while you come across a quote that blows all the other quotes out of the water. This is one of them.

There’s a damaging idea that I’ve lived with for 23 years: that trying hard is a good way to achieve your goals. It makes sense, doesn’t it? If you want something, shouldn’t you try to get it?

Nope. This entire idea is wrong, and I can’t believe I didn’t see it until Jim’s quote literally stopped me in my tracks.

Trying to get somewhere just keeps you in the space of not being where you want to be. Trying to be a morning person, trying to get a job, trying to be more loving.

Trying is toxic.

If you want to be somewhere, you have to take action from the mindset you would be in if you were already there.

How do I know this works? Because this is what helped me over come 10 years of being afraid of flying. I’m telling you, this works.

The best way to be the person you want to become is to ask yourself:

“Now that I am (insert desired outcome), what do I believe about this situation?”
“Now that I am (insert desired outcome), what do I do?”

Then live it.