If saying no when you’ve already said yes makes you feel guilty, embarrassed or flaky, then nobody has told you this:

Saying yes is like flipping a coin.

The point isn’t to lock yourself into a decision, but to reveal your true desire.

Often, saying yes is the only way to find out you’re actually a no.

So buy the item and return it.
Get engaged and call it off.
Sign up and drop out.

Allow yourself to say yes, then say no.

The earlier you find out what you really want, the better.

But even if you don’t discover you’re a no until the last semester of your five-year law degree, or until you’re standing at the alter in front of your entire extended family, or until you’ve already signed all the paperwork and there’s a costly exit fee – don’t stay a yes if you’re a no.

Commitment doesn’t mean sticking to a decision forever.

It means being all in until you’re all out.

It’s okay to change your mind. Even when it’s already done.

Uncommitting is a highly underrated, powerful act.

It’s not the mark of an unreliable person, it’s the sign of an honest one.

Accepting this truth will free you, and make all your decisions feel a thousand times easier.

“Your brain can play tricks, your heart can be blind, but your gut is always right.”

– Rachel Wolchin