Sarah Arnold-Hall

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Why "Don't Get Your Hopes Up" is Terrible Advice

HOLD UP. We gotta talk about this phrase “Don’t get your hopes up.”

You don’t want me to feel a good emotion in case there’s a bad emotion coming?

That’s like saying, don’t enjoy the ride in case the destination sucks.

Whaaaaaat?!

When you don’t let yourself get your hopes up, you’re literally STEALING joy from yourself.

The anticipation of achieving a goal is almost always THE BEST BIT!

When you achieve it, you’ll probably celebrate for 5 minutes and want to set a new goal anyway. So enjoy the ride. Get your hopes up.

Plus, here’s what I think about you: I think you’re strong enough to handle the disappointment of not achieving your money goal, or of getting rejected by a job, or of not winning a competition.

I think you can handle it.

Get your hopes up, have an amazing time anticipating the wonderful joy ahead of you – and then if you don’t achieve it, at least you’ll have had fun along the way.

Getting your hopes up is a beautiful thing. Gift it to yourself and others!